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That's fine if that's your thing, but it's not me. A buddy of mine claims it's the best site for hooking up. It's not free, but I have disposable income and I figure it costs about the amount of a single date so why not. The women here are definitely interested in more serious relationships, which makes sense because they have to pay as well. The down side is since both members need to pay, you may send a message to someone who isn't paying and never know. Match will highlight most people's profiles green who are paying members, but I've had messages from unhighlighted profiles so you can still be paying and not be highlighted.
I tend to only send messages to highlighted profiles since I know it's not a waste of time. I have a feeling the amount of messages women get is far more manageable than OKC. The downside for me at least is though I'm not religious and I put that in my profile not a militant atheist or anything, more agnostic I get a lot of "likes" and "winks" from women who put how much they love Jesus and want their partner to be Christian.
I feel the women on match are a bit more vanilla than OKC in that you won't find many of the starving grad school "quirky" type. Also their website and mobile apps both suck a pile of donkey balls compared to OKC. I hate this one. All you do is judge someone off a few pictures and start chatting if they agreed they think you're attractive as well.
That being said it's like meeting women at a bar, since all you have to judge is their looks you strike up a conversation and naturally learn a bit about them. It's not like women at bars have profiles I can read up on before saying hi. I think it has a reputation as a hook up site but I didn't get that vibe. Personally I wouldn't touch eHarmony with a 10 foot pole due to the stance on religion and the fact I don't want to pay to talk to "I'm a god fearing women who wants a man of Christ" women.
I don't have any experience with it but perhaps others do who can chime in. I had a good experience on OKC. You do get a LOT of messages even as an average looking woman like myself. I pared it down to a small handful of guys I was willing to have a first date with. Ended up dating one for about five months and then it just naturally fizzled out. That makes the messages completely unmanageable and terrifying. It's basically just street harassment poorly rendered into text. Quick plug for Nerd Nite Speed Dating! It was pretty fun! I went with another single friend, and we both had some matches.
I went on a handful of dates with a really great guy, but we'll see where that goes. I definitely recommend giving it a try. Nerd Nite talks are by anyone, for a general audience, about something you're a nerd about. My talk was about my graduate research, but you can talk about your hobby, your job, whatever.
They're usually fun and irreverent. PSA, sign up early if you're a dude. The last few times I tried to do that, the guy list fills up way before the girl list does. Nerd Nite Speed Dating was super fun, I went a couple of times That was a little disappointing. Eh, I realized after I posted that, that I wasn't sure exactly how to answer that. I hadn't really tried to define it before, it was just a feeling I got walking out of it. I know it's vague, and relies heavily on my own interpretations and biases, and I consider myself a pretty open-minded guy, so I don't know. Did this seem more pronounced in the women than men?
Not trying to go into the stupid Fake Geek Girl territory, here. It was on both sides, but yeah, maybe a little more pronounced on that side? I also had more interaction with the women, for obvious reasons, to be fair. And in my experience, most of them are crap. This is one of my favorite trope rules. I think its ultimately optimistic because it says "stuff seems to suck but give it a chance. The quality ones were rare, which is why I only had a handful of dates.
But I got one pretty good relationship out of it so I count that as a success! We are still friends, but it just wasn't quite the right fit for an LTR. Maybe I'm interpreting that as more of a success than others might? I thought it was positive after a little weeding out. I'm pretty overweight, and while I'm not ugly, I'm not a hottie. The overweight part may have contributed to the volume of lazy messages, because of the unfortunate assumption that chubby girls are easy. I've had a few matches out of Nerd Nite Speed Dating, but no one actually responded to my follow-up emails.
I'm going to have to give that nerd nite speed dating a chance! So much better than wading through the flooded disaster area that is my OKC inbox. I think it might also be fun to have a reddit girl's night meet-up. We could all meet before something like Nerdnite speed-dating and get to know one another because clearly we'll all have something in common.
It's so hard to find new girlfriends in this city!
As a woman, I feel exactly the same about most Austin men on it. And it's like they are competing for the best beard or stache on OkCupid. I have yet to meet a woman who finds mustaches attractive. Lol too many roommates. I discovered from Match that every girl in Austin has been to at least 15 countries, loves to go out and see a band or just lunge on the couch with a bottle of wine.
They love their families, rescue dogs, and they LOVE to laugh. Don't forget the adventures. They go on adventures all the time. Take an Austin prospect from OKC anywhere remotely adventurous and they get a bit too far outside of their comfort zone. This made me laugh a lot. I recently got on Tinder and all these girls say, "Love adventures. It's getting to the point where going to the local is a fucking adventure for these girls.
If profiles were truthful they would read, "I'm looking for someone to entertain me. That's like when I see girl with lots of piercings and tattoos and colored hair with avant-garde profile pictures. As an untattooed, boring white guy my reaction is usually:. Someone sent me that link. Half of me wants to try that, the other half reminds me that I don't have enough vacation time. Sometimes I like to go out, but sometimes I like to stay in.
Sometimes I like to dress up, but sometimes I like to be casual. I like to eat, drink, and breath. I don't want anyone who is addicted to drama or wants to play games. Also, I try to avoid people who will try to pierce my heart with an ice pick unless he has eyes like Ryan Gosling. I'm a fun loving quirky woman who moved to Austin to jump start my career in pastel art. There's just no way I could do the typical office job, I would sooner kill myself than that.
While I'm getting my art career going I work part-time in the service industry and I'm considering going back to school for my third master's degree. I love hiking the greenbelt, and LOVE live music! I recently discovered this awesome vegan taco place near my apartment in that I eat at almost daily. I take my dog to Zilker park all the time and he loves it! I use a bike to get around as much as possible to lower my carbon footprint. People think I'm shy but I'm actually just a really deep, introverted woman. I'm not afraid to yell out loudly during a Cards Against Humanity game though.
Even though I make no money I somehow found a way to spend months backpacking Europe and traveling to countries in East Asia. One day I want to live in Nepal, it's just so beautiful. It's the vague ones that make me shake my head - a profile filled with a tiny bit of very general information then at the end "If you write me, have something to say! I want to say that you might want to lead by example God yes, how the fuck do all these women afford to travel all over the world so damn much? I figure they're using OKC to find guys with good-paying jobs to pay for the trips People in Austin really do do this though.
I know when I was at UT nearly everybody I knew claimed they went backpacking in either Europe or South America at least a month and in a lot of cases they submitted proof of their claims. The only friend I had who had a job never went backpacking anywhere. I have a neighbor who is very similar. She's a nurse western medicine, I think , reiki master obviously not western medicine , lived in Nepal for a year giving out free acupuncture to the needy, and literally told my dad she couldn't understand how anyone could want or work at a full time job.
Granted this is in California but I used to live in Austin and she would fit in there. We just wrote every girl on Match's profile.. Oh wait, don't forget the "I never know what to say in these things ; ". The last one I had I got bored with so I just wrote bullshit binary so my profile was "" and so on. Match told me it wasn't appropriate. I was a vegan pseudo hipster when I lived in NYC.
Since moving to Austin I've thrived in every bit of the culture. Everything from Texas BBQ to making beer. I still don't understand the beard culture. I had one once in my life, but with the heat down here I can only imagine how itchy it would get. OK, since I seem to be criticizing everyone else's profile on these sites, here's mine - weluckywho on OKCupid.
I have no doubt I'm guilty of probably 12 different cliches I wasn't even aware of -. I'm know my profile has a few cliches that were discussed, but I'm also a pretty typical dude working an office job. There isn't that much that's unique about me and I'm not selling myself as that. I like all the same shit everyone else likes, I am average looking, I think Big Bang Theory is kinda funny, and I don't give a fuck where the beef in my cheeseburger was sourced from. On OKC I get the feeling so many people think they're the most unique snowflake in the world, and they try hard to express things that they're confident nobody else would express but they end up being the worst cliches of all.
I get it, you're an avid reader and you like that obscure author nobody has heard about that has written two shitty novels. That's cool, just understand that doesn't make you that unique because I can find 50 other profiles of avid readers who list other shitty obscure authors. What the fuck are they going to write about in their memoirs, the hell of being raised in by an upper middle class family in the suburbs, where their "creativity" was oppressed? Holy fucking shit Batman! Call Simon and Schuster!
A way less interesting version of Nick and Nora's Infinite Playlist should make millions! Men with beards and women with random tattoos. Not a sleeve or a coherent piece, but random ink that looks like they've been tagged by a dozen different graffiti artists. Just saying that if you're going to have a cowbell on your arm it should probably have an explanation.
Oh the polar opposite of those dudes exist in Austin. Me being one of them. I'm the least artistic person I know but I can tell a joke. I do have a mustache and goatee, but not to compete or be the most hipster. I do keep mine trimmed. That is, for those of us who are older than college age. I wouldn't say it is cliche, IT people have a very specific personality type that usually is attracted to online dating. I should move to Austin, I'm the opposite of all those things. Except I may have one or two plaid shirts. In my experience, online dating is time consuming, extremely competitive, and often a difficult way to find a good partner.
I spent so many hours browsing and messaging people on online dating sites, only to find the quality people don't respond and the ones that do are usually not what they're pretending to be. You know what's comparatively easy? Learning to meet girls or guys in real life. It worked for me. Start with getting used to making small talk with strangers people in line at the grocery store, people at the next table at the coffeeshop, someone next to you waiting at the crosswalk.
If you're nervous, practice by just asking people what time it is. Then figure out other ways to start conversations Then see if you can keep the conversation going for a minute or two. And maybe eventually it can lead to "hey, we should totally hang out sometime, can I get your number? The quality of people you can meet and actually date in the real world is so much higher than online dating. Most girls would just love for a genuinely nice guy to notice them and start a friendly, non-threatening conversation with them.
Even if they're not interested or not single, it's still probably the highlight of their day. For instance, there are a few women at the dog park I go to frequently that I'd love to hang out with. We sit around chatting it up for awhile. But I almost feel like it'd be an invasion or offensive if I invited them out. Guess that's just your general fear of rejection. At least with online dating I know the girl has a good chance of being somewhat attracted to me if she replies and sounded interested and is usually single and looking to date.
You don't have to ask them out on a "date" date. I never liked doing that anyway. It's too awkward, I'd rather hang out with them as a friends kind of thing and that way we can decide if we like each other later, or end up as friends which is good too. Easiest way to do it Of course if she says she's actually busy or just doesn't want to hang out.
Let me get your number and I'll send you a text when we figure out the details. You don't actually have to have a party It's iffy, but when it's the kind of lie that you can tell her the truth about a short time later and she thinks it's cute, it's probably not so terrible. For me it was generally mostly true, we really were always thinking about having a small party, it just only actually happened pretty rarely.
That's my problem, how do I go from friendly conversation to asking for a night out without getting literally punched in the dick? The punching in the dick isn't even what I'm worried about. There are a few places I go that I continually talk to some girl that would be nice to ask out, but based on past experience it'll only ruin the nice conversations we have. It'll go from pleasant talks to subtle avoidance and eventually not talking all together. I'm fine with being rejected, for whatever reason, but once you make that move you're branded and if they say no they will almost always feel like they can't talk to you anymore.
If you can't escalate, you're fucked, and not in the way you want. And let's be perfectly clear: I'm on the fence about this. It is competitive, yes. Women and men sometimes have access to so many people, one could say they can be more "picky" than if they were limited to people they met in person. The other side of the coin is that people can now truly find their best match now, rather than "settle" for the best person they happened to run across in their day-to-day.
I do know that. And I honestly would have never tried to use [i] type of codes on here I'm not sure how that ended up like that actually. Wonder if I have some kind of weird browser add-on at work or something that turned a habitual Ctrl-I into that or something Not sure where you get your eHarmony impressions. I used it on and off for a couple years, and never once did I get a bible thumper. In fact, out of the two dozen or so dates I logged from the site, I think I only talked about religion once.
For guys, in the beginning they'll match you with new folks a day. I thought it was great; takes the whole 'meat market' aspect away by focusing two people's attention.
That calm, cultivated approach probably sells better for the early to mid 30's crowd more than the late 20's. Regardless, they expect you to pair up eventually or haul ass. I honestly was just going off its reputation. I know the owner is a big Christian and I've heard of people doing their quiz to only be rejected up front.
I never gave it a shot, but I was hoping to hear experiences from people who have and thanks for sharing yours! I met my fiance on eharmony, coming up on 2 years ago. He's atheist and I'm agnostic, so there's no requirement that you have to be Christian. To be fair though, he was in the first group of matches for me and the only one I actually messaged so I never did come across a bible thumper.
I'm definitely under the impression that if you're looking for something serious, you should definitely go for a pay site like eharmony or match. Within our group of friends there's us currently engaged , a married couple that also met on eharmony, and another couple together for 3. So pretty successful, I'd say. In Austin for instance it's largely the quirky introverted vegetarian girl who is not interested in anything serious but I spent a week in NYC and the women there were more vanilla women who seemed interested in something serious.
There are always exceptions, and I recognize my own personal bias but I do have a feeling someone using OKC in Austin will have a different experience than that same person using it in say Dallas or Chicago. Along with the veggie girls, I find that there are a lot of "cougars" on the prowl as well. Basically bored housewives and empty nesters moms and couples.
Pretty much everywhere now. I've got a buddy who's interning in town and he just uses it to hook up where ever he is. They're kids in a candy store. Not that I'm in the market, but I'd take quirky, introverted, and not serious over vanilla and serious any day of the week.
As a woman in her 30s I was inundated with grammatically terrible messages and most of the guys looking for a hookup. On OKC, I was messaged fairly regularly and it does become sort of a second job, slogging through messages and replying to people who seemed interesting.
I hated getting messages of just, "Hey" or "Hi".
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In fact I would put on my profile to not message me if you were only going to say that. I would also message guys initially who seemed cool from their profiles. I went on a lot of dates from there, and the weird thing was a lot of single guys in the late 30s and early 40s seemed pretty off in a number of ways. Either bitter at marriage and women, or really fucked up personal lives, ED issues, etc.
On the opposite side I seemed to get more interest from guys as young as 19 to mids. It did seem like most of the guys on OKC were looking for quick hookups and not an actual relationship. As far as the late's-and-up guys go, that's interesting, but not surprising. Coming from a guy's perspective - there's a lot of that on the female side as well.
Kinda seems like many of the singles in that age group have lots of baggage and some unresolved issues in general. Bitterness about failed marriages, etc. I totally get that. For me I was single because I had just left a decade long relationship so I knew why I was where I was at. A lot of the people I ran into just did not seem ready to date. Oh or to talk about having yellow fever or what have you. Just basic shit you don't say on a first date. Never has a post on Reddit made me happier that I'm a gay man. We have our own issues to deal with, but it seems guys are just more direct with each other.
And for the love of God people, please don't put up photos where you're wearing sunglasses, shot above with a Facebook angle, standing in a group with 8 similar looking people with nothing to indicate which is you , or any shot that looks way more flattering than reality - people have learned to assume that you probably look like the worst photo you post, not the best one. My experience with those sites are significantly different. My experience is sending messages and never getting any messages back ever.
For any dating site. I gave up on online dating I'm a girl. It was nice for the first few months here in town when I did not know anyone. Then, it just got annoying. All but one of those times, these were people whom, because I met them online, I had zero emotional attachment to. I found it difficult to be even just one ounce of sincere during these dates because I felt like I was on a job interview!
But, fyi, the ONE person I did have a connection with is still a friend of mine. We had mutual friends and frequent the same bars anyway. My two cents is that it depends on what type of person you are. I, personally, can't walk into a bar and immediately talk to the hottest guy in the room - that is not what I am drawn to. I am drawn to people who I already sense some connection with either through interests, mutual friends, work etc and just a general mutual way of existing in the world, if that makes sense.
Physical attraction comes from those things, for me. I can't get a sense of any of that stuff from an online profile.