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I hope you find a amazing husband. If you make Indian parents fall in love with you, the marriage is literally done. Your comment made giggle, thanks for that! I will probably never see that particular Indian man again but I will always cherish that time and the experiences I had with him around Bangalore. By the way, I went to UCI for about a year, lived in Newport Beach on 39th Street at that time…had a white Jeep Wrangler and used to roller blade on the boardwalk every night.
I have very happy memories from that time. I lived in El Segundo for 1 yr and had a business in Dwtn L. A on 7th and Grand. I have not been to Bangalore since 94, but reside in Mumbai when I go to India. The best part about me is I can date or marry a white girl and there are no restrictions. How easy can it get. You are forgetting that generation that was talking bad about you, came from being on the cusp of being disrespected, raped, and otherwise mistreated by the british.
There were whole streets in Calcutta where indians were not allowed and a lot of that anger and hatred carries forward. Nothing new about that, in the US we routinely get asked the same stupid and equivalent dumb questions whenever something bad in Pakistan, the middle east, or any non-white country occurs. You look like a wonderful person, enjoy your time. The divorce and kid thing also has nothing to do with you, if you were Indian and the same thing you would have the same issues, and it is not that you are divorced it is that they believe you have a pattern for leaving your husband so you will repeat.
Hello, Great to hear about your experiences with Indian men and wish you the best. I love my wife dearly and we have a wonderful relationship. I have dated women of other races in the past. A lot of it has to do with their attitudes and lack of understanding and integrating with life in America. Like many traditional indian men, they base their understanding of American on movies or books rather than real life or approach American women like they were Indian and come across as pushy and domineering here.
I mention this in response to some of the posts citing racism in America. If they were to approach an American woman on the same cultural playing field as an American man, since they are in America, it would work. I am not dominant or pushy and just ask to go for coffee and they refuse outright. I have lived here all my life, so no excuses that I am Indian etc…. I play sports and am not intimidated by any white guy or girl, so integration is not an issue.
Yes it is racism here period. I told you it has just started to change, but you hardly see mixed couples here. I rest my case. I think its better to marry in the same culture you brought up because it adds less complication to relationship. I am not saying not to date anyone beyond your culture if you knew you can handle it with dignity and trust. My parents came from India but i grew up in Asia pacific in an eastern European neighbor hood community.
Infact you can say i grew up with them their culture their tradition makes me feel home. And the ladies i dated are all from Eastern European none from India. Because i knew there is big difference in culture and i may not able to handle stress that comes with it.
I married my Romanian sweet heart and we have 6 year old daughter from this marriage. If you ask me if we had problem sure like every couple but never had cultural problem coz i understood her culture very well. If you are uncertain of different culture then its better you stick to your own. It saves your time from divorce. Well good luck with that. You will find love when you least expect it. And to date someone of different culture you have to understand their culture.
No one would date a guy or girl who is complete alien to their culture and why would they. I am telling you from my personal experience. Best Wishes from New Zealand. Ok nothing about culture race and religion I think.
Maybe growing up in Texas has to do with this? Try to be cool,be yourself. Work on personal growth first. Do not complain about it in front of her rather talk something else like how you talk to your friends. Make her comfortable around you,take her to dates that involved many activities like visiting museums,walk around in the city,show her what your made off. Take her to an art or pottery class,be spontaneous. Do not bring her to a movie. I am not sure if you are referring to me. How can I be creepy and controlling. Desperate, maybe cause I have been looking for the past 1 year.
You would be too, if you had no luck. Where do you live. What is a pacific Islander. Ross, another point I wanted to make is if you came here, you would be dry too. Because you are not Caucasian. It does not matter how you look physically, this is how it is. You have a serious issues with your self esteem and confidence ,women can detect that.
No Ross, this place is like that. I have issues maybe, but even you would be a turnoff to woman. Other places are more open than here, trust me. You have not told me where you live. I do not have issues with my confidence, but on the contrary woman are stuck up here. I will watch hitch the move when I have time. Last weekend, I went up to an Asian girl and just introduced myself I am not into Asian girls and her body language was get lost.
It is very diversified and people are more open minded accepting than say Iowa. It has nothing to do with self esteem or confidence, but the opposite sexes attitude. There are a lot of stuck up people because there are guys that make big bucks here, plus it is very much a white majority population. You can get a girl here, but not one of your dreams. Maybe , you come on too strong and sare them away. Being too aggressive isnt good. Most women like to take their time,slow and steady and see how it goes.
You presented yourself as aggressive which equals desperations. When you talk to them dont make it like an interview and be funny,tell jokes. Be smart but not to a point of shooting her down,listen to her.
Man,I could charge you for being a coach lol. Ajay, your comment regarding about too many guys making big bucks here in Edmonton just shows that you lack confidence. Stop having self pity and go out with tons of women at the same time but with proper scheduling otherwise they will accuse you of cheating even though women are doing the same thing-its about mate selection process.
Anyhow,my current gf is Canadian from Saskatoon. Ross, I am not getting intimidated. You are not accepting the facts. I spoke to a good looking white dude about this and he agreed with me. I honestly was shocked that even he is going through what I am. I have decided to give up here and look elsewhere, no use wasting time and effort. I went to a party today, had a conversation with a girl. Then 10 min later I wanted to speak to her again, it seemed she backed off.
I was not creepy, but just wanted to feel wanted a bit. I actually went to the bar and started crying, I was so hurt. I could not believe these white girls are heartless. I have a big heart, so I conclude I am not interested in any white girl here anymore. Actually any girl anymore. They now will have to invest in me and pay for my dinners, if they want me. I will no longer approach them. I am tired of playing games and shit like that. In fact, when I was introduced to Chris Gayle at a private party I stayed for only 3 minutes chatting to him and then I went back to my mate who I had abandoned.
Angela,Thank you for your response. I wanted to say that I cannot comment on Indian woman because I am out of touch with them for the past 10 yrs. As for white woman in Alberta, they are COLD, I cannot comment on other places and yourself, as that would be poor judgement. Why do you not like it when a man chat;s with you? What if I, the best man on the planet like you and want to date you and instead you give me no attention. How should a nice good looking guy meet a beautiful girl? You can see my profile on FB under Ajay Kotecha.
None of my friends like being approached by men while out either. I agree targeting someone to date for the sake of experience is not the correct approach. Focus should be on knowing your priorities and working on goals. I also think dating should go in the direction of long-term relationship and preferably marriage. Dating starts as fun, but if you are not sure what you want out of a dating, then it can hurt you, person you are dating, and it may take a while to come out of it, may be months, years.
So act as if you mean it: Maybe we should meet then. Firstly, the woman-men population in Eastern U. A and Canada is much greater than here. Every nice looking woman here has a bf, unless she plays totally hard to get, which is 1 in a million. So what I state has nothing to do with needy or confidence, but as I mentioned attitude.
You can teach me your tricks, but ignorance will not change here. Like I said before,act cool,be flamboyant around women. Be mysterious,play with her mind but definitely not mind games. Women are stimulated mentally,they get attracted to you. Dont give all your shit at once,let her discover you as youre going to discover her. When you talk to her , make it short yet interesting conversation and move to another person, act like youre in control,you got your shit together,act like a player,act with confidence yet not cocky. The first thing you got to do is make her attracted to.
Touch her hand,shoulder or the small of the back when talking but do it if its in a right circumstances. Dont be too pushy,listen to her,asks questions but never ask about what she does for a living. Test the waters and figure it out what she likes to talk about. Never ask if she has a BF. Just have a converstation like youre talking to your old friend. Second,make her comfortable around you,make her safe around you.
Women can detect the slightest creepy personality coming from a person and they will stay away and its called gut feeling. Try to observe guys who are succesful to women and try to copy them. Ajay,dont show your weak side yet.
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Cause 5'8 and shit is Tinder short but ain't a problem IRL. You're taller than most women and women are terrible at judging height IRL, so with a in bump on Tinder, you're golden. I have a problem with calling these qualities a proprietary white thing. You could have all the characteristics and still be who you are. Otherwise I agree with everything said. Where did I do that? I'm highlighting that my problems went away, and it wasn't because of race i. You couldn't be more wrong. I'm half middle eastern but was born in the US, so I'm completely American.
My dad never even taught me his culture, so I don't know anything about it. I have a great job, own my house and car, workout every day, eat healthy, great shape, lots of hobbies, socialize, etc, etc, yet I can't get a date for the life of me. It most certainly comes down to race. Let me tell you, fitness is pretty much universally attractive. Fitness and grooming transcend race. Having a nice personality is even better. I can see where you are going with this. At the time I thought he was black.
Turns out he is Indian, born and raised in England. Too bad he never made it big. I remember a couple of hits and he disappeared. Last I heard he got married and had one or two kids. I could have sworn Shahrukh Khan was quite a big thing, maybe just in Australia? I used to sit up watching his movies on SBS and I had a massive crush on him. They inherently think of Indians that they are stinky, hairy cheap charlies that will bring them back to their cheap hotel where the rest of their gang will wait for the one sent out with money in his pockets to bring a female to share with the rest.
Idk I find it pretty easy and am brown with messy hair and beard. I'm also like 6'2". Idk they tend to like me a lot. I'm 6'3, and in great shape, workout every day and eat healthy. Also have a great job, my own house, car, etc, etc, but can't get a date for the life of me. I'm really autistic tho so they don't end up liking me but they'd prolly be inclined to fucking me if not. Indians are very different from the rest of East Asians physically we look very different and also culturally. I've heard that in the UK East indian men do better. I also live in Vancouver and Indian dudes are seen as pretty athletic and cool around here.
The answer is yes Due to the alt-left mainstream media so focused on preventing backlash from terrorism The alt-left focuses on lifting up black, brown, women, gay, bi, cross dressing trannies, etc Sorry, but you are wrong. It most certainly is about being white. I'm half middle eastern, but I workout every day, eat healthy, I'm in great shape, have all those great qualities that you listed above and yet, because I'm brown, I still can't get a date for the life of me.
Never had an issue with any girl of any race. Give a girl space, play it cool. Get some good Tinder pics. Yup, even a caveman in Thailand can do it. Workout everyday, eat healthy, good job, house, car, social, etc, etc. Can't get a date for the life of me. Funny you say that. Although I am American, I am half middle eastern. That's where the problem really resides. American women don't like dating brown guys. Yeah, you should consider yourself lucky that you aren't hit with the small penis stereotype that much, even though Indians, more so than other Asians, do on average have smaller dicks: That shouldn't mean you do what this buffoon does here: Americans have below average dicks brah, that's why they're so obsessed with Asian dicks.
Deep down they know their pink sausages aren't cutting it. It really doesn't really matter like I said, it only matters what else you bring to the table, the whole package. But what does matter is you have an ounce of self-respect and don't do what that Indian "comic" does there, regardless of what white people statistics say. There isn't penis size length or girth by race. Of course it appears funny and is useful in forcing people to read further. He parked the car at a restaurant and not outside a hotel so why would he show condoms suddenly.
It is almost impossible to have sex in parking lot of any Indian restaurant. This idea has been picked directly from Hollywood movies 3. As an Indian man binge watching American shows and even my friends have been watching American shows from a long time but desperate housewives or Sex in the city are not quite popular among Indian men. So that mention also points out to the some fakeness. Before starting the story it is good to sort out the facts right. Foreign readers who are the intended audience might believe coz they are not aware.
Your first thought is to assume the woman telling this story is a liar and exaggerator… interesting! Wow, some very interesting anti — India propaganda there, as usual! I am Indian , live now in Kolkata , but was born and brought up in Berlin, Germany. Berlin is an international city, and I have seen German , British , American women all do their thing, living it up. I am also aware of how often white women become victims of date-rape and gang-rape , courtesy their oh-so-civilised white boyfriends.
And then ,suddenly , when you all come to India, you all become virtuous, decent , self-respecting ladies! Who do you think you are fooling? And I have also been to the United Arab Emirates, where I have seen white women tourists get into cars with complete strangers- rich sheiks by the way, in order to sell sex for money. Where was their sense of self-respect then? We ,the intelligent, widely travelled population of India have called your bluff long ago. If any Indian men are reading this, my advice to you is- avoid white women like the plague.
No wonder thousands of Americans who want to have a decent family come to south-east Asia to find brides! They have had enough of your double standards too. A tbousand apoplogies for the vile garbage in the above comment that was made in my name by an arsehole who was using my computer!
Delete this piece of trash immediately-you are so right about Indians. I am very sorry for the hurt caused by this extreme racist bullshit this motherfucker spewed out from MY computer. Once again, extremely sorry for the hurt this caused. My comment below will tell you how I really feel about your topic. I was shocked when I came back to India to see how western women are treated. Never about girlfriends or whether they are married or not. This immediately signals disinterest in matters of romance or sex. If he becomes uncomfortable, you know what he really wants.
These three initial tests usually give a good idea of who you are dealing with. Guys who react very positively to this approach make for good friends you can really hang out with and count on. In that case, good luck. But, sad to say , so many of the white women I have met have had horrible tales to tell. Willing to Make Sacrifices: A good marriage will be needing all the way up most of your time. If you love your task and cannot find yourself sustaining a internal life on the career-driven existence it is actually really do not to enter into marriage yet. Query like "will I marry and sacrifice my career to get a marital life life" need a respectable option.
You can answer yes any time asked having said that, you have to make sure that you answered it to be honest in any other case you will purely be lying to yourself. It is not easy to develop a profession and if you are not likely very happy quit in that case it's do not to generate wed prior to you have become prepared to gain that.
Insights On Significant Aspects In https: It happens with Indian girls too most of the times. I blame Western Media for portraying White Women as easy! Also I know White women tend to racially profile Indian men or any non white men! They just want to date an Indian guy if they ever want to date one to experience culture!
From the beginning they have made their mind to not go into serious relationship with the Indian Guy and use the companionship as just sort of exploring culture and not the person! The girl and the guy date or get to know each other for the first few months before committing to each others lives and families and getting married. Dating in India as a Foreigner: For example, Goa is much more modern than Delhi so you can get away with shorts and tank tops in Goa. However, if you wear such things in Delhi you will attract the wrong sort of attention. Expect bars to close around Realize that our idea of friendliness might be their idea of flirtation.
Not long ago I went shopping with my Indian boyfriend and was chatting with the clerk that helped me. My boyfriend said he thought I was being flirtatious while I just thought I was being nice and polite. Ask if they have a car. Car ownership is not as prevalent in India so you may need to take public transportation. Realize that they may think we are less inhibited or easier than Indian women. It does not take much to encourage them.
Even sharing your phone number might make them think you are interested in more than just a date. This applies to dating in America as well, but it is even more important in India, where a white woman is viewed as a prize. Go to a public place and pay attention to where you are. Most Indian young men live with their parents until they get married. Even then, their new wife often moves in to the household rather than them getting their own place. So it is expected that his mom will worry about him and call him to make sure he is okay and behaving himself.
Be afraid to offer to help pay the bill.