Luckily, confidence is something that can be learned. The easiest way is to start being honest with yourself and everyone else. Face your shame and anxiety head on. I have some actionable tips on building confidence in my awesome article on getting your ex girlfriend back. Another great way to portray more confidence is by setting life goals about things that you are passionate about and working on them.
When I talk about becoming a better version of yourself; I want you to try to work on every aspect of your life. Working on your physical appearance is a great way to feel better about yourself, heal from the breakup and become more confident. Your ex was already attracted to you physically. But you can increase your chances by going to the gym, bulking up or slimming down , getting a new haircut, getting your teeth cleaned; or by getting new trendy clothes.
Being confident and looking good is something that attract girls to you in the first place. But the thing that keeps them with you for a long time, is emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence is something that girls find extremely attractive once they get close to you. If you can be empathic; understand her, understand her fears, her desires, her strengths, her weaknesses, her life goals; you will be irresistible for her. Almost everyone has a deep desire to be understood and accepted by someone they love and are attracted to.
In an ideal world, you will contact her a few days after her rebound has ended. When she is feeling down and miserable about the breakup and is missing you terribly. In some cases, it might not even be a rebound relationship. It might be a serious relationship that she really wants to last. Once you feel you have the right mindset, you have built enough confidence in yourself, and you have acquired the right tools and skills; you should contact her.
I talk about mindset, skills and tools in this article on what to do after no contact. There is no point in waiting for something to happen that may never happen. If you are confident that you are ready, you should take the plunge and contact her. Text messages have a unique advantage when your ex is dating someone else. She can look at your text messages at her own time and reply to them if she feels like speaking to you.
And he will look insecure if he is snooping into her text messages to find out what you texted. It really depends on the way things ended between you two. Read my article on texting your ex girlfriend to figure out the best way to contact her. Again, read my article on texting or my super article on winning her back in 5 stages.
However, the approach you take and your chances of success will vary depending on the type of relationship your ex girlfriend has with her new boyfriend. When your ex girlfriend is just going on dates with some other guy and has not really started considering him as her new boyfriend; you can be a little aggressive in your approach. How do you know if she is just dating the other guy and does not consider him a boyfriend? In most cases, you can tell this simply by the way she speaks to you. If she has not started a relationship with him yet; she will respond to you more frequently and will enjoy the attention she will receive from you.
She will want to weigh her options before making a decision. If you have done everything right till now the steps mentioned in part 3 of this article ; she will notice the changes in you and will start doubting her decision of breaking up with you. Your goal is to try to get her to meet you as soon as possible Read Stage 4 of this article. But, if you have not healed till now and you are not ready; she will choose the other guy over you and might even decide to commit to him. If you are not emotionally and mentally ready to reconnect with her, you should let her get into a rebound.
You should not rush it in hopes that you can stop her from starting a relationship with another man. Think of it in terms of your chances of winning her back. Your chances of winning her back when you are needy, insecure and unattractive are very less compared to your chances of winning her back from a rebound if you are confident and a new better version of yourself. If you act needy and desperate at this stage; you will confirm her belief that breaking up was the right decision and it will get even harder for you to get her back in the future.
Her new relationship might be a rebound; but you must still respect it. You must set boundaries in the way you flirt with her. This is a bad way to start a new relationship with a person you love. Instead, you must slowly develop an emotional and physical attraction with her.
You want her to get confused about her feelings for you and her commitment to her new boyfriend.
You want her to realize that her feelings for you are much stronger than the other guy. This is how you make her decide to leave him for you. If she is serious about making her new relationship work, you will have to be very careful and very patient with this. Read this article on rebounds to find out if she is in a rebound. She wants her new relationship to work and is committed to her new guy. Convincing her to be with you is going to take a lot of patience and a lot of luck.
But if you think she is worth it; then you owe it to yourself to give it a try. Although, I highly recommend that you try only once; and if she does not respond positively; you leave her alone and move on. You are better off spending your time and energy focusing on yourself, moving on and attracting new girls. If you do things that make it super obvious you want her to breakup with her new boyfriend; it will make your ex-girlfriend put up her defenses and cut you out. Instead, you need to just be the best version of yourself and focus on rebuilding attraction and connection with your ex girlfriend.
As she starts feeling more and more attracted towards you, she will start feeling more and more distant from her new boyfriend. Getting her to meet you while she is still dating the other guy is going to be a big challenge. This is especially true if she is committed to the new relationship. In most cases, her new relationship is going to be a rebound and she or her new boyfriend will eventually end it. Hopefully, just getting back in touch with you and realizing she still has feelings for you should be enough for her to break up with her new boyfriend.
Girls usually consider meeting an ex; without the knowledge of your boyfriend or girlfriend; a betrayal of trust. So, she is probably going to deny your invitation of meeting up, even if she has feelings for you and wants to meet up. She simply wants to maintain her integrity in her own eyes. Of course, there are exceptions to the above rule, and if you think your ex-girlfriend is one, you can straight up ask her out on a coffee or to meet up for drinks. But if you think your ex-girlfriend holds herself to high standards; you might want to find a loophole for her dilemma.
These are all great ways to give her an excuse to see you without making her feel like she is betraying her new boyfriend. If you have followed everything in this article, then your ex-girlfriend will probably dump her new boyfriend by herself. But if she needs a little push, you must give her a strong reason to dump her new boyfriend for you. The best way to do that is if you can show her not tell her ; that everything will be different this time. You need to show her that you have really changed for the better and you are going to be this way whether or not you get her back.
You want her to realize that you are a high-quality guy and the next girl you are going to be with is going to be very lucky. We have covered a lot of ground in this article. If you are still interested in more from me, I highly recommend you take this quiz and subscribe to the EBP Basics E-course. I share a lot of insights to my subscribers that are not posted on my website. In my email series, I share many more tactics which you can use to get your ex-girlfriend to leave her new boyfriend and get back together with you.
Scroll down to read the comments. Before commenting, read commenting guidelines. Hi Ryan I was in a relationship for 5 years and we broke up like 1 and half years now. I went through no contact several times. I went through a great changes both physically and mentally and she also did the same. I was trying to move on when she sent me a text message checking up on me so obviously that opened up the line of communication.
So we started having lil talks. My best mates visited her and she told him that she got a bf but later she denies it. So anytime the issue of bf comes up she get angry and says she is not dating. Later on when I pressed her cos I heard the guy came from another state to visit her and she said this to me after a night with the guy. He is someone who took interest in her and she just going with the flow but she will never loved anyone the way she ever loved me, we had a family get other this festive season and she was there.
We had a deep convo for the first time and she asked me about my love life and I was completely honest with her that I had a couple of girls and also I was trying to date. She seems alright but later she told me that whilst she only had one guy I had so many girls that I look cheap. She sent me messages thanking me for opening up with her and also she said she tries to cut me out but she can't because I am a friend and also like a family. On new years eve we had a group dinner and she had a call from the guy she quickly told him she will call him back.
We talked about our getting back and she said it going to be a long process. She sometimes act cold or hot towards me. She becomes more appreciative about things I do for her but she wont give open up and I think I am a bit impatient with that. What should I do. Thank you so so much for this, I know a lot would have a positive vibe and outcome because of this! My girlfriend left me for another guy after 4 years and we even lived together. I want her back what should I do?
It's probably just a rebound and your best bet is to focus on yourself for now and allow that relationship to pass it's honeymoon phase so that it becomes clearer to everyone. In the meantime, give her space and follow our 5-step guide as it would help you increase your chances when you reach out later on. Hi Ryan, Man my situation right now is a bit different. Me and my GF broke up 3 week ago. I did no contact and everything and started talking to her again.
It went very smoothly and she said we can be best friends for now as I can't come in any relationship with anyone. A guy proposed her but she refused. But right now she talks to me about guy she has crush on and everything about there talks. What sign can I take it as and what should I do to get her back? I have done a lot of improvements in myself and on the reasons which caused the break-up. The best thing you can do right now is to keep calm and be confident, while building up this friendship you have with her into something more personal again.
Avoid getting needy or insecure and projecting these feelings to your ex, because it would only push her away. Me and my girlfriend for 4 years broke up 3 weeks ago and for one week I acted like a maniac and did all those things which you mentioned as mistakes. After reading your article I did NC but in a day she contacted me and said that no matter what she will not be able to come in any relation with anyone but there is a guy who is similar to what she always admired to be her husband.
She is in constant talk with him and loves to talk to him too. We broke up because of my insecurities, trying to control her and attention issues. I have improved a lot by now but I don't see any hope of getting her back. I am 22 and my girlfriend is 23 years old. What should I do in this case? Please reply to my query as this is the 3rd time I am posting this. If you want to win her back, you're going to have to ultimately meet her expectations and come across as someone who is the better option in comparison to the other guy. Start by becoming friends again before you try to build on the connection and attraction with her further, but before you even go into that, it might be a good idea to complete no contact first in order to give her some space to let go of the negative events that took place after the breakup.
I did the NC but right now we are talking like best friends. I mean she shares everything with me about every event going on in her life be it personal or career related. Right now she is saying she don't want anyone in her life until she achieve what she wants but if she feels about someone she might go for him. What can I do in this situation? Shall I be continue like this and get in friends zone?
She might end up adding me to her besets friends list but may never accept me as her Bf. As long as you don't get emotional or act needy and continue to maintain this friendship with her, there are many opportunities for you to turn things around as you continue to build the connection between both parties, while subtly adding bits of flirting to the mix. Hey, me and my ex broke up about a week ago. She claims that she wants to get back together in the future and still loves me. Well since she is still responding to you, it means your chances are still there and this other guy is simply competition that you ultimately have to overcome.
Prove that you're the better choice and avoid getting insecure or jealous because technically the relationship with you has officially ended and she's free to meet whoever she wants. My girlfriend and I have been having arguments lately and she called things off ,immediately after that was very emotional and begged her to take me back but she wouldn't listen ,she told me she has a new guy and told me to move on ,we have been in a long distance relationship for about two years and always felt connected ,I want her back so could do with some tips.
The new guy could simply be a rebound but if the relationship had started almost immediately after the breakup, there's a chance that she was cheating on you already prior to the relationship officially ending. Keep in mind that if the lack of physical contact was one of the major reasons leading to the breakup, unless you're able to do something to close in on the distance, it's going to be hard to convince her or build attraction.
Hey,please advise me,we have stayed with my girlfred for 4 yrs and we have a daughter who happens to love me most,my lady is trustworthy but we had financial problems n due to joblessness I used to beat her up whenever we had issues. I suggest giving her time to cool off and you should consider working on your anger management issues because this is probably what made her leave in the first place. You're going to have to make it up to her and convince her that you've changed ensure you actually do so.
Hey Kevin, So about a month ago my gf broke up with me for a few different reasons, including me being a little overprotective and scared of other sexual partners being involved. After grief I made the mistake of keeping up contact and that made me feel worse due to the memories that brought.
After being a little too desperate, she decided to block me for a short while I grief. She says she still loves me and cherishes what we had, but she wants to be single and sleep around etc. She also stated that she had "lost feelings" for me, and didn't feel the same as she used to.
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I'm just wondering if there is any advice you could offer, she said that I shouldn't hold out hope for her, but she also said that maybe one day something might happen but definitely no promise as she could come out of her time single as a different person. I'm also wondering if I should let her know I'm going to start no contact to work on myself, or if I should just start. We also share the same friendship group. I would suggest simply going into it and only consider bringing it up if she messages you first or asks why you haven't spoken to her.
Avoid meeting with the friend group for the time being, especially when she is around since it could set back your progress. Hey Kevin, Me and my ex were dating for 6 months. The first 5 months were good. We had some bumps on the way but we managed to stick it through. The 6th month however was the worst. We kept fighting about her boy best friend because I had a feeling that he likes her. So each day we kept fighting about it when it came to the point where she said she lost all her love for me and wants to break up but be best friends.
So I accepted it but I was broken. But she refused and said that she wants to focus on herself and her schoolwork. She tells me how she needs time alone about a week. But then 2 weeks after the relationship she moved on with her boy best friend I said liked her. But I still want to be with her. How do I make her come back to me and leave that guy? Is this a rebound relationship? What can I make her do to make her see that I can make changes for her?
Remember that while this guy may have had intentions all along to be with her, her relationship with you was what prevented him any chance of doing so and in turn remained best friends with her through the period. Although the fighting was caused because you felt insecure about him, nothing was going to happen as long as she had feelings for you still. She was right in saying that it was the arguments and stress from it that led to the breakup, which gave him the chance to finally move in after she broke up with you.
Honestly, instead of outrightly trying to win her back, which paints you as a needy and desperate person, take some time to recover now and I suggest making the same move as he did in sticking by her as friends and not overstepping boundaries. Let the relationship self-destruct on its own and help her through it, instead of trying to break them up directly.
Hey guys or gals, My name is Chance and I was just wondering if anyone actually comments back on this at all still? If so here goes. My ex and I dated for 3 years, we met and kinda skipped the proper courting stages and had sex right away really. She got pregnant within months and have a gorgeous 2 year old baby girl together. We moved in together and she had a son already that 4 at the time.
We tried to work through our personal differences while figuring out how to love each other and we failed more than we succeeded. I had major trust issues from my past long before I met her and let that be he main reason I was unwilling to fully commit and try my hardest. Given the duration of relationship and link you share with your ex because of the kid, it's likely that this current guy is a rebound who provides her with novel feelings that she probably didn't feel with you, especially towards the end of the relationship.
I would suggest giving her some space before reaching out to connect with her again. You can start off initially with wanting to spend time with your kid, which gives you an opportunity to remain in contact with her, and eventually subtely show her through your interactions with her that you've changed since breaking up. My girlfriend Broke up with me after 5 days at uni. I wasn't their for her the first couple of days and one guy was and she is now with him. I miss her so much but she thinks the new girl will treat her so much better.
Is their anything I can do? If she could decide so quickly to drop her current relationship simply to chase down something new, then you may not want to push for her to come back, at least not for the time being because until her emotional maturity grows, there's a good chance of her repeating the same actions whenever someone comes along. Ok to start it off. I was in a relationship with my ex for 3 years. She cheated on her long term partner with me after we became really close friends.
She later on broke up with him but we decided to take it slow and dated two months before getting together. We were really happy but by the time we got to our second year we started to drift apart. I started to lose attraction for her and it upset her. We got into arguments about not caring enough for one another. She then decided to dump me. Two weeks later she is going out with my best friend who I have been friends with for 20 years. This hurt me a lot, it also hurt me because it is a fairly long distance relationship which is something she said she would never do.
So I took 1 month off with no contact, worked on my self. Two days after no contact she messaged me out of the blue saying that she is so sorry for how things happened and that see felt bad of how she handled it. She said she is much happier now and that her BF my ex best friend makes her happy. However we text quite frequently and she replies to me quite quickly. I am not sure if her boyfriend knows or not. I really care about her and want her back but also part of me wants revenage and another part feels like I could never trust her.
How should I proceed? Would I be able to get her back permenantly? If you genuinely want to win her back, you're going to have to work on first getting over the resentment and lingering feelings of distrust, or both aspects would come back to eventually haunt the relationship even if you do succeed in getting her back.
If she is willing to give it another shot, I would suggest doing your best to make changes and to address the issues that caused the relationship to fall apart. Understand your reasons for feeling insecure and the need to control or manipulate, and perhaps consider being more mindful to avoid doing it to her or she would probably leave for good because by then, she would have determined that you haven't changed and given up altogether.
Im 21yrs old and my ex gf is 20yrs where on same sex relationship girl-girl we've been on our relationship about 4yrs and 1month. We broke up because her thinking is what if one day she wants to form a family or marry a guy. I asked her if shes happy or if shes still loves me she said shes happy and she loves me so much and we dont have any problem on our relationship.
She didnt have a boyfriend since then im her first long term relationship. Were broke up about 2months but after our break up she starts entertaining the guy whose chatting her. I think by now there in a relationship the guy and my ex. She blocked me on IG and twitter but she didnt block me on facebook, she keeps on posting on Facebook mentioning the guy like shes trying let everyone's know that shes in a relationship with the guy and shes very lucky to have her hence shes not that type of person because shes a private type in terms of relationship.
I dont know if shes still into me or shes on a rebound relationship. What will i do to get her back? These situations can be a bit tricky because sometimes a girl can go through phases where they seek different things. If you don't find your comment here, it's highly likely that your comment did not meet initial posting guidelines.
If you have a lengthy situation and require more input regarding the matter, you could post your story on our forum boards where many of our community members would be more than willing to share personal advice. Since last week, we broke up due to me hearing her complaining about our relationship and it really breaks my heart. She said that i changed my attitude and all her housemates however just ask her to break up when she's fighting. I open the door and initiate the break up myself.
When she begged me to stay i choose to walk away. It is my greatest mistake ever. This week has been a terrible. I couldnt eat or sleep well as i missed her so much. I did some silly things like meeting her up to begged her to stay and texting her like i miss you. She told me when i turn my head away, she feels so much better. And i couldnt imagine to lose her. Give her some space, and work on those aspects she felt were issues in the relationship and question yourself if these were indeed things that you may have begun taking for granted later into the relationship which caused her the unhappiness.
Hi im 18 so is my ex gf we were together for 2 years. She broke up with me for a number of reasons; commitment fears, wanting to be independent, because she couldnt be in a co-dependent relationship, because she didnt find me attractive anymore and stopped loving me.
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She said i was the right person and the wrong time and i believed her. I asked her why and she said it is all just for fun and has no feelings, but it makes me feel sick. We've only been broken up a month and she's already sleeping with and dating random guys she doesnt even know. I want her back as a girlfriend but i have no idea how to do it, and how to make her realise she made the wrong decision. How do i convince her everything she's done since she dumped me is wrong and a mistake, and get her to want me for me, and want to be with me.
We're friends at the moment and she says she loves me as a friend but doesn't want me back. Unfortunately, only she can make that decision on her own to realize her mistakes of letting you go. One thing you can do to help with that is by focusing on yourself and improving aspects to make you look like a better catch. Show her these changes and get her to realize from there. It is the first time we got a break up. Its been a week since then, i made some mistakes like begging her to stay and even got drunk to cause some trouble to her like calling her up and telling her i miss her.
Also some short messages like i missed you, care for her like whether has her eaten. Im suspecting her to be sleeping with someone else but i couldnt do anything. Is there still chances for me to get back with her after no contact rule starting by now? We were together for 2. The reason of breaking up is because of me initiating after hearing she complains to her housemates about me changing my attitude to her.
I dont cherish her enough and i look even more desperate now. How do i "Get her to realise from there" though?
Are you saying i should change myself to make myself more attractive and stuff like that? Well, that is the objective of our 5 step plan. We advocate for positive changes to create a better version of yourself because the current version causes the relationship to end. How can i get her if I will not beg to come back Begging makes you look desperate and weak, and she will lose respect for you in the process. All the more if she has moved on, begging will only affirm her decision to walk away from you. Pick yourself up emotionally first, address the issues that you contributed towards the breakup, before reaching out and building attraction as if you were chasing her for the first time.
Hi, So my ex and I were together for about 13 months. In that 13 months we broke up several times due to fighting, but we always got back together after a week or less. Last November we broke up after a really tense situation and it lasted for 7 months. We tried dating and getting to know other people in that time, but we ended up back together last June. Unfortunately we broke up again in August and now I just found out that she's now back to dating the guy she was seeing before we got back together in June.
Apparently they've been dating again for a few weeks now. I've already made some big mistakes like making her really angry at me after this break up and send long messages saying sorry and that I wanted her back. She's already blocked me from social media. I know I should initiate No Contact and I should try to improve myself and try to fix the toxic parts of our relationship, which I have been doing, but how long do I do NC for?
And do you think I still have a chance at getting her back? You might have to consider if getting back is truly the best choice. In the time you've been dating her, the relationship has repeatedly ended which clearly indicates a problem between both parties which may require change from both ends and not just you. However, if you still intend to get back with her, 30 days of no contact seems right given the time frame of the you guys getting together from June till August.
If after no contact, she is still dating the guy or doesn't indicate interest to be with you at that time, you might have to consider walking away even longer for now. Hi Kevin, I like your article and i think your advice is super helpful given my situation. My story is super long and i'd be happy to post it up here but I think what would be really helpful is if I can potentially get on a call with you to discuss my situation. We provide personal email coaching with Kevin in which you'd be able to share your story with him and get one-to-one advice. More information can be found in this link.
My ex and I had been dating from March 18 to around June 18 when everything fell apart. I was in the wrong because she found some texts on my phone when texting another girl and those messages were a bit naughty. She ignores me and comes back oftenly. I want my girl back. Perhaps for the time being, it might be better to go into no contact to give her some space to let go of the bitter emotions she may be feeling.
Apologize for your previous actions, and tell her that it might be better to spend some time apart. When you reach out again, try to make things up to her and show her that you have changed since then. Hi there Ryan, I just wanted to start off by saying I love your articles and they've helped me tremendously. With that being said, me and my girlfriend of 4 years broke up about 3 weeks ago, we are both 21 and we've only ever been with each other. She said that she wanted to break up to experience other people and try different things.
I later found out that she had been talking to someone else. I do put the blame for this on myself because I wasnt the best boyfriend. I never showed any affection, didnt take her out, started to gain weight, didn't have a job, and none of the little things. Yet she still showered me with affection and always tried to put me on the right track, and I couldn't even let her know how much I appreciated that.
Shes always been head over heels for me, and after the breakup it seemed like that girl I knew was gone. She was going out every night having fun with her new guy, getting to experience the things she never got with me for a while. I realized what I had lost and knew that I needed to get her back. So I stopped sitting around and got a job, switched my life habits, started going to the gym, and ended up losing over 15 pounds now. I tried telling her I'm changing for her and all I was accomplishing so far and all she said was that shes proud but it's too late and that I need to stop taking to her.
So I did just that. Then just a couple days ago she came to drop off my clothes, I had no intention of talking to her, I was just going to take the clothes and leave it at that. But then she said she wanted to talk with me and I went along with it. We starting just talking about everything that had been going on in our lives for the past few weeks. We were having a great time and laughing ot up just taking about everything, but then she told me the past couple days she was having panic attacks something she has a history of and that she didnt know why. Then once again I try to tell her I can change for her and I just need one more chance yet she still is so insistent that it's not gonna happen.
I messed up once again and resorted to the begging and bargaining and then she eventually left and went home. I texted her when she left to tell her I was being stupid, I didnt mean to scare her away, and that if she needed anything she could come to me. She said she understood and told me thank you, but also told me once again that we need to stop taking. I later found out that she could have gone to see her new guy that night if she wanted to, instead she chose to spend it with me.
Since that night I decided to start no contact again and continue on improving myself. What I'm asking for here is your thoughts on my situation and should I be there for her if she needs it, or should I tell her no. Thanks for the reply in advance. The first contact seemed to have gone well until the begging and bargaining started, to which you might have caused her to withdraw again. Give things some space, and when you reach out the next time, try to keep your emotions in check and take things a step at a time. For now if she reaches out, you could consider being there for her but remember not to overstep any boundaries and make her uncomfortable.
Me and my ex were perfect with each other and rarely argued, not even fighting. When we argued we would talk it out with each other and come to terms with each other. Last week tho she started talking less to me because university had just started and she started going out with friends a lot more. When I talked to her about this, instead of our usual open to heart discussion she acted more defensive.
Then at the end of the week she gave me her answer and asked to break up with me. Not a big deal, right? I agreed to her request when I heard the real reason and we broke up on good terms. And just thinking about her being forced to be with someone from her own culture and sleeping with them makes me sick to my stomach. Or should I first convince her dad to change his mind and then try to get my ex back by following this guid?
It would really depend on how strict her dad would be regarding the culture issue, and whether you think your ex would someday be willing to disregard it and decide that the relationship is more important. The latter would help in you trying to convince her dad to support her decision, otherwise, you'd be stuck with fighting two battles 1 to win her back and 2 to win her dad over.
If she firmly chooses to respect her dad's decision, you might find yourself having a hard time to do either of the tasks and it may honestly be better to walk away. Hi Ryan, Great material — Hoping you can give me some insight, grab a bag of popcorn. Everything was great Ski lessons, cooking classes and the like , we talked about marriage, moving in and all that good stuff. We were very good together, laughed often and always in contact. Fast forward until 1. She bit and agreed. Come Friday, I followed up with no response until Saturday morning.
Heart dropped but I said that was fine and meet anyways. She was engaged, making jokes, laughing, reminiscing on old times, talking life with no mention of the current person see is dating. Last 15 minutes, I get into why I came. I told her that I expected my feelings to fade but they have not, we were good together and that while I respect her new situation, if she was ever single again, we would be great together.
She said we had good times, thought of me often and that the current thing was not serious and that she would expect to be single again at some point. I ended coffee and left after hug. On Wednesday I texted saying it was great catching up and seeing her, she said the same back. I am now debating on going all in with a text this weekend stating while I respect her current situation, I think we both are great together and have feelings for each other and I want to give us another chance. I think the new thing is sub 4 weeks old, she agreed to meet with me in light of it, she stated its not serious and maybe single again in the future, stayed for a great 2 hours, was very excited to see me, responded to text a few days later, still is the first to stalk my snaps.
Family issues still there, she is currently dating someone, she is stubborn, I waited over 3 months missing summer and her Bday. That puts us out months broken up on a 6 month relationship. Thoughts on my game plan? Instead of immediately going all in which could backfire drastically should anything not go according to plan , it would be better to perhaps remain on friendly terms first, and fact find a little more about her current situation with her date, as well as to rebuild familiarity and comfort towards you. Hi my name is Daniel but we've been together for two-and-a-half years I can't say I've been perfect but I've shown love respect and on their kids she's still living with me but she's going to sleeping with this guy and staying over there she said that it's over this is fresh and I just read this I did every single thing that you put on there not to do is it too late to start fresh and not do the communication thing which I haven't all day today.
About 11 months ago I signed for my daughter to move out of state with her mother and I never told her and I kept it in now I did tell her and she's like why didn't you tell me before I broke down and cried to her and apologized and she still said it's too late she has feelings for this guy she is a nurse and she used to be his nurse and that's what came in contact. Spend the time picking yourself up from the breakup first and go into no contact. If she has developed feelings for someone new, the only chance to win her back is if things don't work out between them, or if you come across as the better alternative and to do so would require some changes in your life to become a better version of yourself than before.
I met my ex-gf the middle of and things were going pretty good and we were both happy. At we spent months being together at same time preparing for college. She was the first to leave for school. During our time together she as always hinted that she was afraid of falling for someone else. At some point, she began making suggestions about finding someone to take care of her while she was in school this was rampant that, it stirred number of insecurities within me. During the time we were together she made out with a guy a family friend she felt sorry and told me about it.
But the insecurities didnt go away. It drove me into thinking that I was never good enough for her. At the same time I battled great deal of social anxiety which I have worked on. After she left for college I stopped contacting her for the fear that I wasnt good enough. During the following year i still didn't get in contact with her at the same time I didnt move on. I was sort of stuck, still working on my anxiety. Till i initiated contact and tried explaining myself that I was dealing with things really personal and that I never left her for someone else. My mistake was that I didnt deal with my issues completely, somehow he grew distant.
But I'm okay wit whatever happens. I understand why the breakup happened and have realized that it was a huge fault of mine. I'm in a good place right now and to be honest, I'm texting u just because I miss speaking to you. I don't have a goal or an ulterior motive for texting you. I just want to see what happens" template from your site of course. So there is no coming back for you. We were never meant to be so Just move on. Sorry Forgot to add when we met she 16 and I At this point she could still be going through a phase due to her age, and you might want to consider walking away for the time being to focus on yourself and grow as a person.
Frequencies and phases of life would change rapidly for people around that age, and you should try to reach out and connect with her once again as friends first later on after some changes have been made to your life and you become the person she can visualize being with. She broke up with me because I was still hurt from a past relationship and I was slower moving than she was. We cared deeply for each other, but she has some PTSD that wouldn't let her move on even though I wanted to.
She also said multiple times she couldn't imagine not having me in her life and for me not to disappear. She said we need to take it day by day and time will tell for us. Its been about weeks since the breakup. I did everything to a T. I had no contact, during that time she contacted me. We texted a lot of remembrance texts and finally went out on a great hike the other day. She said she wanted to go on more hikes if I wanted to and texted me later that is was good seeing me. We had some more text conversations that were good.
She's been hanging out with this guy since day 1 of the breakup. They kinda knew each other before. I was very skeptical of them forming something together, but kinda had my mind eased as she said they were joining their freelance businesses and working of a lot of big projects. Well I just found out two days after the hike that they are seeing each other.
Do I have a chance here? Seems like a rebound but high risk if there is a lot of work and money at stake. What do I do now? Ask her if they are a thing then just let it roll off my back like I don't care because I'm in a good place and tell her there is still hurt and its best to not be in contact for a while? People can be irrational when it comes to emotions, disregarding professionalism. You could let her know that it hurts and go into NC for the time being while they're dating.
Hi Ryan, I've lived in London with my girlfriend who was from Argentina for the past three years.
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We had an incredible connection and lived what we both agreed and still do was the best 3 years of our lives, our friends, family all loved what were together. She began to miss her family and country and got the point where she wanted to move back to Argentina to "see how she felt" and whether she wanted to stay in the UK and get married etc, of which I totally understood. So we broke up and she moved away. During the first two months apart, there was a lot of communication between us and I have to admit I became very needy and desperate for her to come back very unlike myself..
It got to the point though where I was just causing sadness in her life as I was upset about her leaving, and she told me she was going to move on.. I think I must have made every mistake in the book! A week after this, I found out she had already met someone else and is moving on. Again, I made a massive mistake by losing my shit when I found out about her being with someone - mainly because she had continued to string me along with hope until the day I heard about the new person, and it really really hurt. She said that when she met this new guy, It made her realise she didn't want to fight for me as she was attracted to him.
A lot of the pain lies in the fact that if we weren't born so far apart, we both admit that we would have been together for life. We were so perfect before this ordeal and I feel my neediness made her fall out of love with me and into the arms of another man. I had never been needy, desperate or jealous once within the relationship. It's been about three weeks now of sparse contact and the last email I sent yesterday was an email to her apologising for my neediness and that I respect her decisions which I actually do and I wish her the best.
She sent me an email apologising for her actions and saying I would always be in her heart and that the best memories of her life were with me. What course of action do you think I should take I keep wondering if I hadn't been trying to convince her to come back, the outcome may have been totally different.
You might want to consider several options depending on where you stand and given the circumstances:. Most of this year we were together but I kept her at an arms length and was not committed to the relationship and was honest about it. A few weeks ago we had a blow out where she basically told me she just wanted me to tell her I could guarantee we'd be together at some point. I told her no relationship is a guarantee but I wanted to work on things.
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She told me she was going out with friends that night but she would call me when she got off work. She didn't call so I texted her and asked what's up. She texted me back something along the lines of "it's not the right time, i'm sorry, i'll always love you. She text back and said she loves me and hates me so much. I asked her to come home and she said no she was staying out late. Like a stalker, I drove by her house shortly after and she was coming home. I asked what was going on and she told me she went out with another guy someone she mentioned before but that she came home because she was confused and wanted to figure things out.
Long story short, we were kinda sorta together over the past week but I was needy, clingy, etc. This Friday she said she was going out again and after not hearing from her all night, I drove by her house at 5am stalking again I know and her car wasn't there. Rather than waiting for another lie I texted her that I was hurt and couldn't believe it was so easy for her to leave me for someone she barely knew and that my time with her was the best of my life and goodbye.
I realize I just pushed her right into this other guys arms but my question is, do I try and reach out and tell her it will hurt me if she sleeps with this other guys and I'm working on things, or do I just institute no contact? If I can stop things before she moves forward I want to, but I can see how she just has the desperate image of me stuck in her mind right now.
In the meantime, I've been following the advice of the guides and started working on myself and haven't done any more crazy texting, calling, etc. It would be better to initiate NC, as the former idea would probably push her further away because of the impression she may hold over you at this point.
Brilliant article this, pretty much how my ex is behaving, she is moving in with her rebound after two months, I have grew immensely over the two months, would say I'm better than ever on many cases. Only issue I have is she won't contact me back, although I feel like her new guy is stopping that in every way, do you have any advice to get over that part as waiting around is the hardest thing. She did move over from Canada to the UK to be with me, she is also still wearing my previous engagement ring although she has blocked me on everything minus WhatsApp and texting.
Any advice I'd be most grateful. Waiting becomes hard if all you're focused on is actually waiting around, and each day becomes a torture and passes by really slowly. I would suggest putting yourself back out there, for the time being, developing new lifestyle habits and essentially just focusing on yourself. Consider even dating again in the meantime if you feel ready , since she is currently also doing the same and let opportunity present itself before deciding on an action to take.
If my ex went to talk to someone new, and I realize that the person has had some small trouble with the law. And has is seeming lying about some things. Can I, out of concern of possible safety, point that out to my ex? Or is that considered comparing? Your ex might consider it differently from how you intend the message to come across, especially if your ex currently has strong feelings for the new person.
Would be best if you could get a mutual friend to relay the message instead of you. Hi I just came out of nc and my ex is seeing someone. I sent her the elephant in the room text. She did not respond to the text instead she came to the place I live angry at me crying saying that I me ruined everything. I told her I think we need more time apart before we can speak. A week later she unblocks me on whatsapp and when I text her she told me I must go speak to her in person. I want to know how do I approach this? Go along with meeting her in person and decide again based on how she responds to you.
It does seem that she still has feelings for you, but hasn't let go of the past yet to treat you normally. Me and my girlfriend of 5 years broke up after both parts doing wrong stuff. We really loved each other and she would sleep on my house everynight. But dring the last year we stared having some arguments and she did some wrong stuff including messaging his first boyfriend. I wanted to stop being with her but she really wanted to stay with me, appologising and really showing real effort to keep our relationship.
The problem was that i never really got over it and started treating her differently and basicly she lost connection and gave up, even with me loving her a lot and showing it too. She then went on a dinner with her friends and it lead to stop talking to me for days. When i talked with her she said she needed space and she was sorry. Then we talked again and she said she wanted to be with me, but i asked her to fisrt explain what was happening with her because she was not the same and i was desperate and trying everything to be good with her.
That night we had sex and we were really good talking until i flipped and said that i needed to sleep. We talked after and she said again she needed some space to understand everything because she said she didn't know and was feelling really depressed , the thing is that after that I acted too insecure and clingy, she would talk to me and say she lved me and i was her best friend, but she didn't love me as boyfriend like she used to.
I asked her out believe after too much pressure already and she broke up with me. We stopped talking for 17 of june until she texted me asking for sending some numbers she really needed for work. I gave it to her but then acted too needy again stupid she talked and said she was still in my life. I said goodbye and she said we could talk, "why goodbye? On 17 of july. I just found this now because obviously i would not do this stupid mistakes.
I believe i still have a chance and now that i read this i feel much good with myself. I need to start NC once again right? The problem is i that i know she did not get over her ex boyfriend and i believe she will find him on a council party on august. Should i tell her that i don't duel on what happens and what she will do and that i will go NC?
Thank you for everything, i believe if i read this on the first week i would be really happy with her, but htat's life ahh. Well, it's always better to realize your mistakes late than never at all. Go into NC properly, and work on yourself in the meantime, focusing on making yourself happy again. Understand that she didn't completely close the door on you back then, but it might require some time before she would feel comfortable talking to you again after your actions back then during the breakup. The breakup came out of left field for me, despite her protest that there was nobody else involved I have a feeling this guy may have been hovering in the background.
I think this because she had said to me during the breakup that she was angry with me for some things, and she didn't want this one guy at work to flirt with her and for her to think for a second I deserved it - so I think it might be that guy. Which makes me think she let him flirt and maybe things got out of hand and feelings developed. But this is just speculating as I have no hard evidence. It could also be that he's an easy rebound target if he was flirting before, who knows. I'm confused at how she can move on so quickly knowing she wanted so much with us on a couple weeks prior to the break, we had marriage and moving back in together on the table and had been together for 7 years.
I'm coming to terms with it all as time goes on, but there's a part of me that still believes we could've had it all had she not taken the easy way out just because we hit a rough patch. Do you think given the time frame and how this all happened that she has moved on, or had moved on before even the breakup? And has zero feelings left for me? The last time we spoke she was the one who sent me a text to tell me she was dating someone, she swiftly blocked me as she just didn't want confrontation I suppose.
But, I texted her asking to talk and she was resistant to it - said she didn't think anything was on a bad note and is worried that if we forced a conversation for closure it might head that way, and she was "on edge" about talking as the last time we talked things got a little emotional.
I dunno, in Kevin's email subscription he mentioned that there is a "missing badly" stage the ex goes through after a month or two, and this phase lasts a while - I'm just not getting that vibe. I ultimately would like it if things could work out in the future but the more I let time go by the more chance this new thing might be more solidified, but I guess I have no control either way. My main problem here is that - when we broke up she didn't take steps to remove me or block me from anything, she just limited her FB profile etc and we unfollowed each other.
She would view my insta stories every now and then etc. When she texted me about this new guy however, she has since taken steps to remove me from everything and privatise her profiles. To answer your question on whether she has moved on, it would honestly depend on how early on in the 7 years of marriage she began to feel this way about you but usually for a relationship of 7 years, it is unlikely that she has completely moved on. However, that does not mean she has not given up on the relationship a long time ago.
Based on Kevin's email, just because someone may think of you or even miss you, does not mean that they will react positively towards you still because these thoughts of you may come in waves but their logical selves tell them not to act upon it. Also, there's a good chance that this guy may be a rebound relationship after being together with you for so long, and if she is still on edge towards you, space would be a better option as opposed to pressure from your end, resulting in potentially accelerating the speed at which she moves on.
Thanks for the reply. I couldn't pin point it myself when she might have begun to feel this way. We weren't without problems, but I didn't think they were huge issues that couldn't be resolved. She was still talking about our future, joint bank accounts, what we'd do with our home and where we might move to etc just two weeks before the breakup, so to me all this doesn't indicate she gave up that long before Anyways she told me that she really likes me and to be honest I thought she was attractive and wanted to get to know her more….
So, when college ended in late May, I was back with my girlfriend, but the whole summer I was just kept curious about the girl I met at college…. Anyways, the girl had posted a harmless picture of the 2 of us at the beach it was a track party so the whole team was there , and my girlfriend was NOT happy at all…. I was still so curious about the girl from college… However my girlfriend and I still hung out all summer and that connection was definitely still there and I enjoyed every single second of being in her company…. Now towards the beginning of summer I had talked to people about possibly breaking up with my girlfriend to explore my curiosities with the college girl….
Again… she spent that whole summer trying to win me over with cute notes, little gifts, voicemails, etc…. I went out of my comfort zone with meeting girls and trying new things this whole semester, and towards the ending of October I literally had an epiphany…. I knew that I needed my girlfriend back. Not a doubt in my mind…. However, I learned that she started seeing another guy at her college since the beginning of September… this crushed me… seeing her with another guy was the worst possible thing for me. She had been keeping it quiet on social media, but then I saw a picture and unfollowed her from all social media immediately to prevent myself from being hurt.
I had written this letter specifically intended so that my ex girlfriend could read it when we finally met up…. I wrote the letter not holding back anything… I told her I wanted her back and that I was sure that me and her were meant to be together, I recalled past happy memories, I brought up the fact that I have the madonna whore-complex, and a whole bunch of other personal, relationship stuff…. We talked a little after she read it, and she just basically said that the letter came too late, and that she needed the letter of assurance before summer ended….
Anyways, it just sucked to hear her say she was in a serious relationship, and it just confused me because that summer she spent so much energy on trying to win me back, and sending me assuring notes and voicemails,etc…. I know the kindve person she is, and that is a long-term relationship person…. This is all stuff I told her in that letter too… so she knows how I feel. She probably thinks I sound so desperate.
I told her I still have a few things I want to tell her which is basically just my reflection from when we finally saw each other and the past few days. But she is being like way too nice about it…. I know this is a long ass story but I would really appreciate any feedback… thanks a lot. Please ask this question on our relationship forum https: So I started reading your question when I realized it smelt like burning toast. Putting my tablet in my nightstand drawer, I went to the kitchen and to my horror, the toaster oven had caught fire!
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Unfortunately, I have never finished reading it over these 30 years, but I thank you for giving me quality bedtime reading material that always puts me straight to a deep slumber. I dated a girl for the past 2. We were our first everything. We became toxic due to not knowing how to be in a relationship. We constantly talked about marriage and our future. We had the most love and passion for eachother but lead ourselves in to constant break ups. We always got back together after a couple of days though.
However, we had a falling out that lasted a few weeks with no communication. I decided to try again with her but was very cautious the whole time. We actually got to a really great place. But she dropped the bomb on me that her and her family were moving from California to Texas.
She wanted me to come but I was scared. She moved and I had a plane trip to visit in 6 weeks. After 2 weeks she ended things completely at random and got a new boyfriend he same day. She has been with this new guy for three months now. She is only 21 and going through a rough stage of her life I. I still love her to death. I would do anything to be back with her. I made MANY mistakes.
There was never any infidelity, only lack of communication and reciprocation. Last time I talked to her she said she was going to marry this guy. It just all seems so fast and very unlike her. What can I do to get another chance? Would you consider this guy a rebound, even after three months? She was was a close relative of one of my in laws!!! When we dated, she had plans to settle down and get married. I definitely wanted to marry her, but I wanted to take it step by step.
Things started off lovely at first. She invited me to invited me to her church. We went boat ride to get together, then we went to the an amusement park afterwards. We both were on social media. Then one day she noticed that about of a bunch of porn was posted on my page and she grew discussed. I tried to explain to her that I would handle this issue and block those people posted that stuff which I did. But she still was not going for that.
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The did something to me there. I called her on social media and did a video chat with her a day after I got the voice mail while I was at the Rehab with one of my family members. Just the sound of voice had me thinking about her so much that I began to chat online with her here and there wondering how things in her life are. This weekend that pasted, there was huge event for one another my relatives that graduated rom high school. I wanted to attend which could because I was taking care of my immediate relative that was ill and was working on getting better.
I was hoping and praying that she would be there, so we could do a live video chat but she had a hectic schedule and she could not make it for she had to take part in another function which she helped organize. One the day of the function we were texting. That night a went a to reggae night club trying to take mind mind off things, and help me feel better yet the depression would not disappear. Therefore I just kept praying and praying and asking the most high to help me get her back in to my life again. She made me feel good. She raised my self of steem and my confidence.
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I dated my ex for three years. We were very close and best friends. I ended up leaving her while still in love with her. I moved to Asia but soon missed her. I eventually poured my heart out to her and offered marriage no matter where we lived. I recently found out that she is dating someone else. Last time we spoke I restated the fat that I wanted to start a life with her.
But realistically how probable is it that she will want me back? I said some bad words to her when it happened but she never officially Brok up with me I walked in and found her with a guy I love her and her children will she come back. Your email address will not be published.